Dear Me (4 years ago)

I have decided to write this to you in hopes that if time travel works or if there is an alternate universe that is years behind us exists that this letter will reach you.

I want to start by telling you the biggest secret which I have learned this past year and a half.

If you think that you can’t wear something then you will never be able to wear it.

Think about it Huli. There are some girls who are smaller than you who would never be caught dead wearing that miniskirt you love so much meanwhile jeans just aren’t your thing. You have never really had a specific style and at 25 you still don’t have one. Sorry. At some point in the next few years you will try to execute certain things that will fail miserably but believe me, that is for your own good because once you learn that certain styles just aren’t you then you can move on from them.

Keep on keeping on with the experimentation but remember, if you aren’t comfortable in it then don’t wear it. Follow people on social media who you inspire to dress like but don’t be disappointed when crop tops and high-waist pants don’t feel right on you. Believe me you will fall in love with crop tops and high-waist skirts. Take plenty of pictures and wear the outfit at home first to get an idea of how it feels when you sit and when you get up to make tea. Those are very important things when you are 25. The pictures will help you to see the outfit from different angles.

Wearing clothes is a mental exercise and there is nothing less attractive than a girl you keeps on pulling down her skirt because she thinks that it is too short. You did that a few times and believe me it was not a good look. You knew that dress was too short for you to feel comfortable all day in and yet you still wore it so suck it up and stop hurting the poor fabric!

Also, stop waiting for your “perfect body” to wear the clothes that you love. Just buy them in your size and wear it with confidence. It is your body and not the worlds. Like seriously. Wear the shorts because heat waves are a real thing and trying to cover up just to save someone else’s eyes from your cellulite will be sweat inducing exercise.

Lastly I just want to remind you again.

If you think that you can’t wear something then you will never be able to wear it. Get over your mental blocks and you will turn out okay babe.

Love,

Me

Hulisani the intersectional feminist who still believes in romantic gestures and saving mother earth.

Written by Hulisani Khorombi, Staff Writer, #mygirlsquad