Have you ever looked at someone and worried why they may look so depressed or sad?  You probably worry what they could be facing to look the way they do. Thinking someone may be suffering with low self-esteem maybe one thing that pops in to our head. It’s something we should never be ashamed of thinking or even facing in our lives.
Very often we struggle with facing certain aspects like who we are, what we’re doing or not doing, even not living up to someone else’s expectations . We look in the mirror and all we see is what’s wrong with us on the outside. No one should ever feel obligated to worry about how they need to change themselves or being in situations that lead them to be sad. We are not prone to express the feeling of low self-esteem because many times it leads people to judging us. In actuality suffering from low self-esteem is normal occurrence in today’s society and without knowledge of getting help for it can bring you to a dark place in your life.
Some traits you should look for when determining if you or a loved one is suffering from low self- esteem:

• One may get increasingly defensive and pessimistic when it comes to everything around them.
• You watch people’s words and actions towards you like a hawk.
• Putting others down and enjoying it.
• You often question other people’s feelings, words and actions toward you.

What causes low self-esteem in most people? In a word: uncertainty. You don’t feel good about yourself, you make fun of people who appear weaker than you to make yourself feel better and constantly putting yourself down.
When it comes to living with low self-esteem it can lead you to doubt yourself and your ability to do better for yourself. We can be in denial when it comes to even facing ourselves as we don’t want to accept the fact that we could get to that low point in our lives. Low self-esteem can also lead to depression, if unaddressed it can manifest into physical illness as well.
Although this may be something that is hard to overcome, if you’re getting to that low point you need to reevaluate yourself with changing your mindset. You are in control of your thoughts and actions. Surround yourself with people who are going to keep you thinking positive. If you notice someone close to you is having a hard time – offer supportive solutions that include seeking help.Being there for someone facing low self- esteem is a big deal and can help tremendously.  Lastly,no matter how hard things may get remember that your happiness matters the most so make it a priority.

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Written by Caroline Senion, Staff Writer, #mygirlsquad