The Trinity Of No – Relationship Dealbreakers


Love is a journey quote.

There comes a stage in relationships where you just have to say NO. It just isn’t working and let it go. Here are my top three things that you should NEVER COMPROMISE on just for the sake of being in a relationship.

  1. Your peace of mind

NOTE: Honey, if you are up every other night wondering if your significant other is being faithful, constantly checking who is tagging them in pictures or trying to figure out their passwords; your peace of mind is not intact. When doubt creeps in it steals your joy. Please don’t be a bystander and let something that you can control eat away at your happiness.

  1. Your self-worth

NOTE: When you and your significant other started dating they loved everything about you. In fact they were convinced that the sunrise was caused because the world needed to see how beautiful you are. Fast-forward to today and they have mentioned on three occasions how much weight you have gained or how pretty the new neighbor is. [side eye] If you are constantly having to reassure yourself that you are worthy of being in a relationship with your significant other despite your flaws, then we have a problem. Find someone who won’t leave you wondering if you are good enough because honey, you are.

  1. Your standards

NOTE: When I talk about standards I am not referring to how your significant other looks. If you have constantly being dating people who meet a certain physical criteria and keep getting hurt is it not time that you move on? I’m not saying that you shouldn’t want to date Idris Elba but are you passing up a really amazing guy just because he isn’t dark enough? More importantly though when I talk about standards I mean the values that you hold dear to your heart. If you participate in #NoMeatMonday or are an inter-sectional feminist then you need to ensure that your significant other understands that and respects it. They don’t necessarily need to participate but they do need to give you space to be you.


Couple holding hands. Retrieved April 25, 2016 from

So take a good look at your relationship and realise that you are good enough for the best, you are worth more than diamonds and your peace of mind is more important than your relationship status.

Hulisani the Intersectional Feminist. Hopeless Romantic. Lover of life. Blog: ther earth.

Written by: Hulisani Khorombi, Staff Writer, #mygirlsquad

Leave a Reply

Please log in using one of these methods to post your comment: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s